Thursday, October 31, 2013

People Desperate for Love

Yesterday, I got caught up in an episode on Dr. Phil about a woman who met someone online that turned out to be a fraud.  She had fallen in love with a picture of a man that had been stolen and used to perpetrate a scam.  To top it off, she had mortgaged her home and given a total of nearly $191,000 to this person at the other end...without ever meeting him.  As I went searching on YouTube for clips, I was astounded to find so many woman who have been duped by crooks and frauds who use false identities to play with the emotions of women either for money or a sick emotional gain in hurting another.  Here is a link to the page on Dr. Phil.  CLICK HERE

Any rational person reading this is probably thinking to themselves, how could these people fall for this stuff? They are not alone.  There are numerous stories of people, both men and women, being duped by what is termed as a "catfish" into falling in love with someone who doesn't exist.  The Urban Dictionary defines a catfish as:
The individual discovers the person's weakness and feeds into that weakness until they are emotionally hooked upon the person at the other end.  They fall in love with an image of a person and a false personality, all of which they find attractive. The individuals who perpetrate these scams have their own mental issues. Why would another person do this to an unsuspecting, love-starved person just for getting kicks out of deceiving, hurting, and destroying a human being?  Frankly, the Internet is a dark place of anonymity that gets darker by the hour, and as singles you need to be aware of the dangers. 

Frankly, I don't trust online dating sites any longer.  It's like clicking on a link in a random email that steals my information and identity.  In a sense, a catfish exists for one reason -- to steal your heart and leave it bankrupt.  You might find it interesting to go on YouTube and watch some of these sad stories regarding people who have been duped.

What does it tell me?  It tells me that as single human beings we are becoming desperate for love and searching for it in places that are dangerous.  After 14 years of being single and alone, I can understand the desperation.  However, that desperation often comes from looking to others to define your self-worth that you are a person who can be loved.  If there is anything I have learned in my walk through life is that we should never look to others to define our value.  We need to find it in ourselves.  That breeds the wisdom needed to protect your heart above all else, "for out of it flows the issue of life."

I hope that you will take the time to watch some of these sad stories.  If you are in an online relationship and have never met the person, just be aware of the darkness lurking behind your computer screen.  Be wise - be safe - love yourself first before seeking it elsewhere.

Here is a link to YouTube and some relevant stories about others who have succumbed to this scam.


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